One of the basic tenets of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is, "People have all the resources they need to succeed." Before I expound on that though, let me pose a question. What is the difference between a bum and a CEO? The answer is not as complex as you might think. The answer is simple: choices.
What made the bum a bum, and what made the CEO a CEO? Their choices. Who's to say that their positions could not have been reversed? You might think, "Well one of them was lucky and the other was unlucky." However, everything--including luck--stems from choices. An overly dramatic example of this is the man who goes to the bar and has one too many beers, then he is faced with the choice of whether he will drive himself home drunk, or call a cab. The consequences of that choice could be life-changing.
That is true of any choice we make. This could be a scary thing if it's looked at in the wrong way, but I choose to see it as an empowering thing. If where we end up is based on our choices, then we have control. Many times in my life I have looked back on my past choices to see a seemlingly miniscule decision impact my life in a huge way.
Six years ago, when I was going to Bob Jones University, made the decision to talk to a random guy about ping-pong, we played a couple of games and ended up becoming friends. The person I met that way was Adam, the founder of this website, and my good friend. If I hadn't made the decision to open up a little more than usual and talk with him, I would not live where I do, have the friends I have, or be writing for this website. Actually, this website may have not even existed, or if it did, it would be in a drastically different form.
That story was a little off-topic, but I wanted to give an example of how seemingly small choices can drastically affect our lives in ways we could not possibly forsee. The reason this is empowering is because we have the power to make choices.
The point of all that was to say this, anywhere you want to be in life, anywhere you want to go, can be reached through a series of choices. A choice to form a new habit to replace an old one, a choice to befriend someone, a choice to read a certain book, or to not read it. You can achieve anything you desire if you are simply willing to make the choices you need to make to get there.
"People have all the resources they need to succeed." You may look at what you want from life--what you want to have and what you want to be--and think, "Wow, I can't have that, because I don't have what it takes, I don't have this or that or the other." Here's why you can have that: you can choose to do whatever it takes to get it.
Learn the skills, develop the attitudes and philosophies, understand the ideas, become the person you want to be. Any person who is not heavily disabled can learn any skill. Now, a 5'7" white guy like myself may not ever play pro basketball, but I can learn to shoot and dribble well enough to hold my own in any pick-up game.
Anybody can learn any skill. They just have to be willing, and they have to make a choice. Once you decide to learn something, you will do whatever you need to do to learn it. Once you decide to be something, you will learn whatever you need to learn in order to become that. You will form the habits needed, you will take the action that is necessary, you will learn the ideas that are fundamental to what you want to become.
This is one of the ideas that is universally empowering, no matter what you want to do, be, or have. The idea that you can do it. Anyone who says, "I can't do that." is not unable to do it, they have decided not to do it. Once you accept this, you will realize that it is never a question of what you are capable of doing, it's a question of what you are willing to do.
I recognize within myself the potential to be many things: I could be a chess grandmaster, I could be a professional basketball player, I could be a high level computer programmer, I could be a supermodel, I could be a musician, a singer, a baseball player, an artist, a general, or a priest.
I have the capability to be any of those things. You may think that that is egotistical on my part, but it is not. You could be any of those things too. I will not be most of those things, because I am not willing to be them. I choose, consciously, not to be those things. You have the same power to choose what you want to be.
I choose to be a writer, a salesman, a friend, a counsellor, an athelete, a sign of hope. Those are the things I have chosen to be. I am not all of them to the fullest extent yet, but I am in the process of becoming them. I have decided, and I am doing what it takes to be those things.
As I have said all throughout this article, you have that same power. You have all the resources you need to succeed, they are already inside of you waiting to be acknowledged and unlocked. All you have to do is become aware that they are there, and then decide to use them. No one else can do it for you. You must do it for yourself. Therein lies the challenge, but therein also lies the power. If someone else gave you your success, then it would never really be yours, you would be powerless to control it.
Here are the steps that you must take:
We live in a time-based dimension right now, so you must understand that things are a process. You will decide now, and if the decision is truly made, then you will become what you want to be. There will be many more decisions to make along the way, but as long as you are aware that you have the power to be what you want, you will get there.
Now is the time! Realize, Choose, Decide, Act! Do it now.